
Originally Posted by
Flash33
Another story involved me questing and playing together with my long time buddy named Aaron Mistflame. Back when Dragonspyre was the final world and even after Celestia was out we often played together and helped each other out on multiple wizards. He usually used the Old Crown gear while I used whatever since I was higher leveled but that didn't matter as we had a ton of fun.
Years later he got Open Chat, and shortly afterwards our relationship took a sour turn. Since I still had Text Chat at the time he started getting carried away with it by saying stuff he knew I couldn't see, even saying it was fun to do so when he was showing it off to me for the first time. Then one day during a fight against the Sea Lord boss in DS I was forced to report him after he was being very rude and disrespectful to the other player there (even cussing them out) even after being asked to stop. I don't know whether it was the same day or a day after but I remember confronting him about it and telling him something along the lines of "I'm keeping you on my friends list in light of our long standing friendship. But I warn you, if you keep acting up I will be forced to remove you from it." If you've seen Avatar: The Last Airbender, essentially think Roku's warning to Sozin as that's where I got the inspiration from for that speech.
One day after that he messaged me in game out of the blue asking if I had reported him for his behavior during the Sea Lord fight, to which I replied yes (this was long after I received Open Chat myself). To my surprise he thanked me for it as apparently he had gotten temp banned from the game because of it, and that scare combined with my own prior warning was enough to get him to think about what was important to him. He apologized to me for his behavior and said that he didn't want to lose his account or me as a friend. I forgave him and we're still in-game friends and on good terms to this day.
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What can be taken from these stories?
I guess it'd be it's fine to help others out and even befriend them while doing so, but just be careful about who you choose to hang around with long term. As well, don't be afraid to call friends out on and/or report them for their behavior, and be willing to end or even threaten to end the relationship when it's clear they won't listen. Best case? They'll apologize & shape up. Worst case? They'll double down & prove they're not worth being around anymore. On the flipside, while it's okay to be upset when no one comes to help you when asked, don't expect your friends to help you 24/7 or with every single thing: that's not fair to them or you. Finally if you think it's funny or acceptable to be rude and disrespectful to others just because they might not understand what you're saying/aren't giving you you're way, think again and consider if it's worth potentially losing your account(s) and/or friendship(s) over.