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      Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      ó You Donít Just Lose Someone Once ó
      You lose them over and over,
      sometimes many times a day.
      When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
      creeps up,
      and attacks you from behind.
      Fresh waves of grief as the realization hits home,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
      and as you awaken,
      so does your memory,
      so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      Losing someone is a journey,
      not a one-off.
      There is no end to the loss,
      there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
      when it washes over.
      Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
      they have a journey ahead of them,
      and a daily shock to the system each time they realize,
      they are gone,
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every day,
      for a lifetime.
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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Thanks for this @AluraMist. Losing somebody really happens when they're forgotten and when their legacy relinquishes it's impact. When their passing isn't the dawn of changes that can make the people they care about happier afterwards.

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      Cool Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Quote Originally Posted by AluraMist View Post
      ó You Donít Just Lose Someone Once ó
      You lose them over and over,
      sometimes many times a day.
      When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
      creeps up,
      and attacks you from behind.
      Fresh waves of grief as the realization hits home,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
      and as you awaken,
      so does your memory,
      so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      Losing someone is a journey,
      not a one-off.
      There is no end to the loss,
      there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
      when it washes over.
      Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
      they have a journey ahead of them,
      and a daily shock to the system each time they realize,
      they are gone,
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every day,
      for a lifetime.
      ~ Donna Ashworth Words

      So beautiful, and very, VERY true. It is also important to remember, pets are "someone" too.


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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Quote Originally Posted by AluraMist View Post
      ó You Donít Just Lose Someone Once ó
      You lose them over and over,
      sometimes many times a day.
      When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
      creeps up,
      and attacks you from behind.
      Fresh waves of grief as the realization hits home,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
      and as you awaken,
      so does your memory,
      so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
      they are gone.
      Again.
      Losing someone is a journey,
      not a one-off.
      There is no end to the loss,
      there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
      when it washes over.
      Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
      they have a journey ahead of them,
      and a daily shock to the system each time they realize,
      they are gone,
      Again.
      You donít just lose someone once,
      you lose them every day,
      for a lifetime.
      ~ Donna Ashworth Words
      Thank you for understanding.



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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Quote Originally Posted by Kokyota View Post
      Thank you for understanding.
      And 'thank you' too for the times that you shared. Last month we lost a family member to a tragic accident. So I understand, because I am there too. "Pain shared is pain divided."
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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      I'm so sorry for your loss - for anyone that has lost someone.

      I lost my childhood kitty, Chloe, back in Dec. 2019. I discovered she had gotten cancer the same year we had just moved. She made it for a little over a year, with multiple surgeries, and it was the most painful thing I had ever watched. She had been with me 15 years through elementary school, middle school, high school, college, and now my current adult life. I saw her everyday, her precious meow, her annoyed meow, her playfulness and dangerous moon eyes. She was never just a "pet" to me; she was my family.

      Early in 2020 I lost one of my Karate Masters to cancer as well. I was able to attend his remembrance ceremony with my second "family" of karate instructors.

      And recently, as of August this year, I lost my close Uncle to brain cancer.

      No one told me as I would get older that I would watch many loved ones die. And not just die, but possibly suffer from this incredibly heart-breaking disease. A torturous black hole of the most evil thing one can die from as a human being. When you're a kid, if you lose someone it's hard to grasp why they're gone, and how they're gone. Losing my grandparents at a young age, I don't think I really understood the impact of death. The memories you have of them are always with you, but if you're particularly close to that individual on a daily routine, your whole life can change in one night.

      I weep as I remember and type these memories. I can only hope that if I'm close to death, that I can see all of my family and spend time with them once more before I go.

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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Quote Originally Posted by AluraMist View Post
      And 'thank you' too for the times that you shared. Last month we lost a family member to a tragic accident. So I understand, because I am there too. "Pain shared is pain divided."
      I pray strength to your spirit as you face this journey. I pray comfort to your tears and pain as you walk this journey. And again, I pray this prayer for myself.



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      Smile Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      I wanted to think very carefully before I posted anything other than the short message I posted earlier.

      For everyone who has lost someone they loved, no matter if they are human or not, my heart and love goes out to you all.

      I have been there all too many times myself, and thanks to some very special teachings, I have come to terms with it; but the sadness at not having them at your side never fully goes away. There are always some measure of truth in all teachings, not matter the faith, religion or philosophy and that is where I found my own strength to deal with this very personal journey we all must take.

      When I was very young, I lost my first loved one. Because of a family that was not just dis-functional but actually anti-functional, there was no way to be ready or even have a way to express those deep feelings I faced. My solution was to bury them so deep they "disappeared" and festered until I was in my 40's. During those years, I lost many other loved ones and literally felt nothing (Or so I thought).

      In 1995 I got a phone call from My Dad. I was living in Hawaii at the time and had not had any contact with my family in almost 20 years. He managed to find me and call to let me know my estranged Mother had cancer and was dying. Once again, I felt nothing; in fact I felt a sense of satisfaction in knowing that the person I blamed for the failure of my family was soon to be gone.

      He explained that, much to my amazement, she actually wanted to see me. My best friend was near me and heard the conversation, and told me to go see her in Sacramento, California. I told him I had no intention of seeing her and that I did not care if she did die. My friend calmly reached over and slapped me across the back of my head and told me to grow up. He had never acted that way before so for his sake I agreed to go spend a couple weeks in California.

      People, I will tell you this now with all the love in my heart. Over the next 2 weeks, we sat and cried as we spoke freely and clearly for the first time in our lives; I don't know who cried more. During that short couple weeks, we both grew in ways that words can never explain...and I started to feel a rush of "new" emotions I was totally unfamiliar or prepared for. Enough to say, I called my friend in Hawaii and told him to start packing my things for me; I was moving to California to spend the last few months with my Mother.

      During that time, she stopped being my Mother and instead became my Mom. She, my Dad and I spent our last Halloween, Thanks Giving and Christmas together as a family. In that following January, her lung cancer metastasized to her brain and she also caught a major case of the flu. Between the cancer, the chemo and the flu, her 60 year old body could not handle it anymore and we said our Good Byes. My Dad was devastated, and so I stood strong for him during the weeks that followed; it wasn't until almost a month later after he moved back to his hometown in Kansas that I finally, for the first time in my life, broke down and cried at the loss of someone I loved.

      4 years later, my Dad would also die of cancer which is what brought me to Kansas where I am now. I got to be with him for a couple weeks before he passed,and he taught me something very special which is why I have decided to share this with you.

      After seeing the love of his life struggle with her cancer, he decided he would not fight it. Instead of fighting, he would enjoy what time he had left and look forward to being with his love again. For him, death was not an end but a new beginning to be cherished.

      With his passing, all the years of loss at losing so many in the past overcame me and I ended up needing professional help. I was told to look back, remember all the wonderful times I shared with each and everyone one of them; and that through those memories, they would all be at my side. Sure, I could not reach out and touch or hug them, but the memories I now cherish would always be there to give me strength. The person who told me this important lesson was a member of the Buddhist philosophy (Not religion) and later was the same message I was given by a Pastor who I truly respect.

      Please do not make my mistake. Take your time and let all those emotions work themselves out in their own time and pace. During that time, remember all the wonderful things and know that you are never alone as long as you have those memories. Don't try to rush yourself, just be honest and accepting of how you fee and you will find a great strength you could never imagine.

      Nobody can tell you what or how to feel, all we can do is share our own experiences and pray that through them others may just find a little comfort and/or strength. It is also important that sometimes, it is OK to just ask others to let you alone until YOU are ready. Don't think you have to be strong for them, instead focus on what you need first.

      Regardless of what belief system you have, I pray/hope/wish you find your own center of strength.


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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      @Pegasus Unbound Thank you for sharing.



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      Re: Thoughts on "Losing someone ... "

      Quote Originally Posted by Crystal Calligraphy View Post
      I'm so sorry for your loss - for anyone that has lost someone.

      I lost my childhood kitty, Chloe, back in Dec. 2019. I discovered she had gotten cancer the same year we had just moved. She made it for a little over a year, with multiple surgeries, and it was the most painful thing I had ever watched. She had been with me 15 years through elementary school, middle school, high school, college, and now my current adult life. I saw her everyday, her precious meow, her annoyed meow, her playfulness and dangerous moon eyes. She was never just a "pet" to me; she was my family.

      Early in 2020 I lost one of my Karate Masters to cancer as well. I was able to attend his remembrance ceremony with my second "family" of karate instructors.

      And recently, as of August this year, I lost my close Uncle to brain cancer.

      No one told me as I would get older that I would watch many loved ones die. And not just die, but possibly suffer from this incredibly heart-breaking disease. A torturous black hole of the most evil thing one can die from as a human being. When you're a kid, if you lose someone it's hard to grasp why they're gone, and how they're gone. Losing my grandparents at a young age, I don't think I really understood the impact of death. The memories you have of them are always with you, but if you're particularly close to that individual on a daily routine, your whole life can change in one night.

      I weep as I remember and type these memories. I can only hope that if I'm close to death, that I can see all of my family and spend time with them once more before I go.

      All I have to give is a wish to be there to hug you while you weep.



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